Monday, November 23, 2015

18 Reasons to be Thankful

Do you have a reason to be thankful? If you think about it long enough, each of us can usually come up with a reason to be thankful. Therefore, as Thanksgiving Day approaches I grasp that I have taken my blessings a little too casually.  Thus, I have remedied my unconcern by reflecting and compiling a list of reasons to be thankful.

You will notice that each thankful reason listed below corresponds with the eighteen days leading up to Thanksgiving Day. Each one is especially relevant to me. As you read, you may find some that you are able to identify with or you might even come up with more that relate to you. No matter, the main point of this exercise is the action of taking a moment to reflect about your own reasons to celebrate Thanksgiving Day.  

  1. Family: I am thankful for each member of my family, for they are precious and irreplaceable.
  2. Being alive:  I am thankful for being granted another day on this amazing planet.
  3. Helpful people: I am thankful for those who go a step beyond with their helpful assistance.
  4. Military members: I am thankful for those who serve our country with honor and sacrifice.
  5. God's creatures: I am thankful for birds, cats, dogs, and squirrels. Their comical antics cause me to laugh, especially when it's dismal outside.
  6. Safe shelter: I am thankful for the safety of a safe shelter from the rains and the wind. 
  7. Gift of prayer: I am thankful that I can turn to my heavenly Father's assurance thru prayer, especially in these times when there are those who hate human life as they lash out with violence.
  8. Health: I am thankful that I can exercise and strengthen my body which in turn, strengthens my mental capabilities.
  9. Friends: I am thankful for good fellowship with old friends and new friends. Friendship pushes loneliness  away.
  10. Sunshine and laughter: I am thankful for both. The sun brightens everyone's day and laughter helps heal everyone's hurts.
  11. Creation: I am thankful for the ability to look around and find God's touch all around me. He created an amazing landscape.
  12. Rainbows: I am thankful for the appearance of rainbows. Their miraculous beauty reminds of the symbolic meaning of hope and belief.
  13. Love: I am thankful for love, for without love life would be like a dead garden. 
  14. Blessings: I am thankful for God's countless blessings bestowed during the course of my life. 
  15. Faith in a Supreme Power: I am thankful for a living God who continues to teach me to walk a path with purpose. 
  16. Memorable moments: I am thankful for those rare moments that can't be seen, but only felt with the heart.
  17. Courage: I am thankful for courage because when I am scared to death about facing something, but take action anyway,  I find that courage triumphs over fear.  
  18. Rocky PathsI am thankful for rocky paths, because it forces me to place my trust in my Heavenly father. Jesus walked the rocky path with pure grace and love when He chose to walk with us as a man, a friend, a teacher, a prophet, a rabbi, and the Son of God. He suffered greatly before he willingly laid down his life for you and me. He found the sweet taste of honey within that rocky path of suffering, filling him with His Father's eternal peace.
I wish everyone the blessing of thankfulness and peace as we approach this Thanksgiving Day celebration. I charge you to be the mirror that reflects God's powerful love while reaching out to others. 

Blessings and Happy Thanksgiving,

          Kathy Goodhew

Friday, October 9, 2015

Afraid to go home to the one you love?

Have you ever been afraid to go home to the one you love? Ask any abuse victim this question and pay close attention. You may see a hint of fear lurking in their eyes, although most will deny that anything is wrong. I know because there was a time when I was that person. I was a victim of spousal abuse.

Many victims and survivors carry around long-term, hidden scars and yet, they have an inner strength waiting to emerge so they can protect themselves and their children. Because of this, most abuse survivors will conceal their feelings of heartbreak, loneliness, or despair in order to survive their own personal battlefield. If a survivor were to speak out, each would have a story to share, however there are some who cannot, because they are no longer with us. The abuse I speak of is the use of verbal, physical, emotional and even sexual control or oppression with the intent of crushing the spirit of another human being.

Abuse in all its forms touches people of every culture, race, occupation, and age. Each year, millions of women, men, and children suffer from emotional or physical violence and many abuse victims have been led to believe that they deserve the abusive treatment. Domestic abuse will continue until our generation recognizes the destructive nature of domestic abuse. 

Many victims are women and they are afraid to talk out of fear while everyone else treats it as invisible. The survivors who do break their silence are the ones that speak up, hoping for change. Sadly, the statistics are on the rise and we continue to disregard the long-term effect of domestic abuse. 

Some ask, “Why don’t they leave?” or “Do they enjoy being abused?” The better question might be, “Why do abusers terrorize and crush the one they profess to love?” Many victims do leave, but the real reasons for staying are more than any one statement can adequately explain. And yet, there is a possible reason that many people have not considered. It is the thing that brings paralyzing fear into a victims eyes. Many abuse victims don’t leave an abusive relationship because of ‘separation violence.’ They know that the risk of more severe violence escalates sharply as the batterer senses that he may lose control. Nearly three-fourths of domestic assaults were inflicted after the separation. Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury or death to abuse victims in the United States.

My Viewpoint:

We all probably know someone who has been physically abused. This makes us slightly more attuned to the destructive nature of domestic abuse. We have a choice. We can continue to be silent or we can break our silence and speak up. Sadly, abuse will stay unless we decide that we’ve had enough. It’s up to each of us. Silence will only create more violence! It’s time to make a choice and take a stand. If you see an injustice, I hope you will join me when I say, “This is just plain wrong!”

If anyone feels broken inside, please know it should not define who you are or who you can become! Consider the lowly caterpillar that is transformed into a beautiful butterfly! Consider a baby in the safety of his or her mother’s womb, hesitant to leave only because he or she is unable to see the extraordinary world just ahead. 

Please reflect on this; 

No one should feel alone, thinking that there is nowhere to turn. It is simply not so for God is with you. In addition, there are paths to healing. Having faith in my Savior's loving promise is my path, but even if you are not religious there are many agencies able to help. So go ahead and take that first step because it can lead to freedom from the chains of abuse. 

Psalm 147:3 “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

If we close our eyes and try to imagine beyond our nightmares, we’ll find a loving God who promises HOPE and a new beginning! ~ by, Kathy Goodhew


I am a wounded healer and encourager. I know that my Savior loves me and you. He has given me hope and a purpose and I've been promised a new vision upon surrendering myself to Jesus. When I admitted that I could not handle doing things my way any longer, I found the courage to tell my story about spousal abuse in my book A Vision Beyond Abuse.  I candidly shared about my broken past and my love for God with hope of bringing awareness about spousal abuse to a generation where the subject of abuse has gone unnoticed far too long. My story focuses on one such path (mentioned earlier).  In the book, I vividly describe my personal struggle while trying not to lose hope for something better.  Struck down, but not totally crushed, I worked at staying focused on my quest for the One who knows me better than I do. Lastly, I hope you will come along with me to find your own vision beyond abuse and never give up hope for a better future.

You can find my book on and at Tate Publishing's Bookstore: 

Kathy Goodhew's book is published through Tate Publishing, a mainline publishing house dedicated to working with aspiring authors and giving their book its best chance in the marketplace. 

Blessings, Kathy

Thursday, December 18, 2014

'Dark Night' Poem

Poems for me are a personal and private thing, an intimate creation. I keep each one hidden away and share them rarely.  Perhaps, that is why it has taken me three years to finally share this one. So, I consider the following action a big step. Today, I am posting a poem written soon after my first published book debuted.

My first book is titled, A Vision Beyond Abuse. It is my true account of experiencing and enduring an abusive relationship with a spouse who professed his love. My memoir begins like a bad tapestry and slowly becomes beautiful and uplifting as it pivot's around my awakening to God's plan for me. 

This is my poem:        

 'Dark Night'

Saturday, February 22, 2014

A Letter of Fellowship

I just received a heartfelt letter of gratitude from a woman I met on our recent Alaska tour. I was elated that she took the time to write to me and even more so upon realizing that God brought us together. His ways are profound and mysterious! In her letter, she commented that she strongly believes she was supposed to meet me (I think so too). While on the land tour, we met and then bonded because of mutual matter, spousal abuse. While touring we had several opportunities to spend time together, each confiding to the other, personal facts about our individual experience, usually sipping a cup of tea. After returning home, she researched my website and read various comments preceding her purchase. Once she received her copy of ‘A Vision Beyond Abuse,’ she immediately sat down and read straight through. Afterwards she wrote me, “I admire your strength and desire to inform others of a healing and forgiving God, authorizing our burdens to be carried.” She finished her note with the following statement, “thank you for reinforcing my strength and self-worth.”

I am ever grateful for her uplifting words of encouragement. Her letter reminded me what the essence of fellowship is all about and what we all  hope to embrace.

Paul speaks of fellowship when he wrote to the church in Rome. Romans 1:8 and 1:13 "I thank my God through Jesus Christ for all of you,..." and "...I planned many times to come to you (but have been prevented from doing so until now) in order that I might have a harvest among you."

Until later,

    Kathy Goodhew, author

Saturday, August 3, 2013

Strange Spooky True stories Wanted

Have you ever experienced something so strange and spooky that your eyes grew wide, goose bumps rose on your arms,  and your jaw dropped with wonder, excitement, and fright, all at the same time? These are the kind of stories told best around a campfire at night!

I'm talking about those unexplained noises of recognizable nature like a bicyclist pedaling, or footsteps thumping across a cement floor, a door opening and then shutting, or knocking. Yes, you know what I mean. And when turning towards the noise, you find that no one is there.  What about that human-like scream in the woods that do not sound like any known animal, or what about that strange light in the sky that didn't follow a normal pattern? I'm also referring to that elusive shadow movement seen from the corner of your eye, but when you turn in that direction, nothing is there. What about the visual image of something so bizarre that you are reluctant to tell anyone because you don't want to be labeled crazy?

Have you ever wondered whether there could be more to our reality than we currently understand? I have.... Call me crazy, because here is my confession. I have heard Bigfoot scream and witnessed a UFO sighting.While attempting to rationalize my experience of unexplained noises and shadows sightings, I've even half-heartedly considered the possibility of another dimension coinciding with our dimension, but out of sync with our river of time. 

I think we can all recall a moment or two when we realized that not everything can be rationally explained. That there are supernatural forces at play, creating the unexplainable all around us.  I have mused a lot about the strange things I've experienced over my lifetime and now I am asking for your help. Please, join me by sharing your strange unexplainable true story here.

Until later,

      Kathy Goodhew, author